The most important things in life

Life is brief, and the most precious things can quickly become lost.
Sometimes, outside circumstances cause that loss. Occasionally, we induce ourselves to lose the things that mean the most to us.

Whether a life-changing circumstance happens or you momentarily do something out of nature that leads to irretrievable damage, you often only realize what you had once it’s gone.

That’s why you need to guard some fundamental aspects of your life with an emotion that can’t be tamed.

Our lives and priorities are all complexes. However, there are precious things in life that are pretty much common.

I would say that the most essential thing in your life is you. A healthy, loved, happy, spiritually rich, fearless, determined you. Have that version of yourself as your life’s vision, and never stop chasing it.

Family
Our relationships are the most essential things in the world. They’re the most crucial factor for happiness and, in combination with your calling, tend to be our reasons to live. For most, the family is at the top of the list in terms of values and priorities.

Sometimes, it’s easy to disregard just how much family signifies to us. They’re the people we typically live with, and it’s hard to live with another person – no matter how much we like them. Love gives way to frustration and sometimes…we feel like we hate the other person.

However, your family is irreplaceable and precious, so you have to devote your time and energy to nurture those valuable relationships, not just for the sake of your relatives, but also for your own.

Friends
Good friends are hard to come by, so when you find one, you need to do everything you can to nurture that relationship.

A great friend can become like family. You forge an inseparable bond with someone whom you know, you can always count on — no matter how dark things get. A good friend is a confidant, a shoulder to lean on, and sometimes the voice of reason for us.

Always remember how lucky you are to have found someone you can genuinely call a good friend.

Love
Love includes friends and family, your calling, and intimate relationships. But it also provides everything else you love and all your encounters with others. It consists of those things you enjoy doing, the stories you grew up with, and the kind interactions with strangers that remind you of the love that exists in the world.

These can seem like separate, unrelated things, but they are opportunities to experience love in its varying forms. Experiencing love can give our life a sense of meaning and purpose, like something else…

Your sense of meaning
It’s your passion, your muse. Your calling gives your life purpose and furnishes you with a feeling of vitality that makes everything more relaxed and more enjoyable. This is also how you make a difference.

Your calling is your life’s work. It’s your legacy. To find what you have a passion for, and to pursue that passion, is to find the vehicle you’ll use to contribute your greatness to the world.

Health
This is one of those “you don’t know how much it means until it’s gone” type things. Many people will skip over this point, not giving it a second thought.

However, once you have even a single small health complication, you’ll know precisely just how important this is. At the first sign of difficulties, you realize that everything is jeopardized by bad health.

With good health, you can spend more time with friends and family, enjoy the love in your life, and follow your passion to your heart’s content. With bad health…you eventually, lose it all. So, take care of your health, so you have more time to enjoy the other most important things in your life.

In theory, that’s the most essential things in our lives. However, the problem will become more complicated when there is a conflict between one crucial thing and another. How about when a person in our family has a problem with our friends in another place. Or what if when nurturing family, we actually lose love, or ourselves?

Here is why life is so exciting. Because many exciting things in life actually are things that we have not known before. Because it is the mystery in life that actually becomes an “effectual recipe” for an extraordinary experience.

Selamat ulang tahun mama

Tepat 65 tahun silam, tanggal 21 Juni 1954 ibuku dilahirkan di dunia ini. Seorang perempuan yang kemudian tumbuh dan besar menjadi seorang wanita multi talenta yang melahirkan dan membesarkanku serta memberikan makna cinta untuk pertama kalinya padaku.

Tidak pernah sedetikpun aku meragukan ketulusan cinta darinya untukku. Tidak kala ku masih dalam timangan, tidak pula saat ini. Saat dimana aku hanya terbujur di tempat tidur rumah sakit yang keras ini dengan selang-selang yang menempel pada tubuhku.

Dari dia lah aku mengenal tentang kepribadian seorang wanita. Tangguh, mandiri, bertanggung jawab, supportive. Yang mana ternyata merupakan hal yang langka ditemukan pada wanita-wanita jaman now. Atau mungkin saja karena aku yang ditakdirkan untuk bertemu dengan wanita-wanita yang berbeda karakter dengan ibuku.

Yang pasti, di hari ulang tahunnya ini tidak ada tiupan lilin, tidak pula ada pemotongan kue, selametan potong tumpeng, pengajian dan kemudian membagi nasi berkat, dan lain sebagainya. Hanya ada aku dan dia, berdua menghabiskan waktu bersama. Aku di ranjang pasien, dan dia meringkuk di lantai beralaskan selimut tipis dengan niatan menemani anak lelaki satu-satunya yang divonis wajib rawat inap untuk kedua kalinya dalam bulan Juni ini saja.

Ya, total ini sudah malam ke 12 kuhabiskan bermalam di rumah sakit. Lebih banyak waktu kuhabiskan tidur di rumah sakit ketimbang di rumah untuk bulan ini.

Tidak banyak yang bisa ku ucapkan untuk mu mama, selain aku benar-benar mencintaimu, dan bersyukur kepada Allah ditakdirkan menjadi anakmu yang mengalami semua proses kehidupan ini dari awal hingga saat ini bersamamu. Semoga Allah memberimu surga-Nya untuk keluasan hatimu yang seluas samudera. Untuk kesabaranmu yang tak bertepi.

Mind and Heart

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Man lives from his heart. Humans live in their hearts. The heart is a long journey. Humans follow them, to their satisfaction, their welfare, their happiness, and their God.

Various creatures prevented him, sometimes he hindered it. The heart is the center of the will that makes people laugh and cry, sad and happy, content or desperate.

A man wanders in his heart, the mind helps him, the mind must work as hard as it can, the mind needs to revolutionize, the mind cannot sleep, the mind must be driven faster than the speed of light.

The heart does not always understand exactly what he wants. He can only be oriented to his God to get the clarity and accuracy of his will.

The mind helps to get that clarity and determination, but the mind cannot explain anything about its God.

The mind serves his heart, the heart always asks the Lord. Before God, the mind is darkness and ignorance.

If the mind wants to reach its Lord, it conforms to the law of the dimensions of its heart. If not, the mind will offer damage, entrapment, and boomerang.

If the mind is only able to offer things to its heart, then the heart will be exposed to a vacuum, and the mind itself widens the distance from its Lord.

The body will melt to the ground. The mind will dissolve in time and space. The heart will melt in God.

If the degree of the heart is lowered to the ground, if the level of mind is preoccupied with chunks of metal, then in the certainty of melting into God, they will only be ready to become piles of wood, which are burned not by God’s love, but by fire.

If the heart is only guided by the body, then it will only be scared by the age limit, by death, by poverty, by ignorance.

If the mind is only taking care of the body, if the mind does not know the end, it will change greed nature, will bloom with pride, then be shocked and disappointed by everything that is produced.

Jakarta – Agats (Papua)

Screenshot from 2018-10-12 14-35-52Agats is the capital of the Asmat Regency in Papua, home to the Asmat tribe who are famous for their unique tribal sculpture and traditional mummification practice. Located on the south side of the island of “paradise bird,” with an area of ​​nearly 30 thousand km2, with a population of 106,569 people, a density of only 3.59 people / km2. A very different figure compared to the capital city of Jakarta covering an area of ​​661.52 km2 with a density of 15,663 people / km2.

The journey to Agats is not easy, takes time and costs a lot. The trip from Jakarta alone takes at least more than 24 hours with several transits and changing planes. Precisely we leave right after midnight at 01:20 and will arrive in Timika (with transit routes in Makassar) at 09:30. In Timika there are no direct flights that can fly us on the same day, so we have to spend the night in Timika, to recommence the trip with small aircraft either with Aviastar or Trigana airlines which frequently use propeller type of small plane with a maximum capacity of 18 passengers the next day.

Travel costs as mentioned earlier are not small. At least spend IDR 4 million for a trip from Jakarta to Agats. If calculated in total, the travel costs incurred have reached IDR 8 million. Don’t forget that the number does not include the necessary transit expense in Timika due to the absence of connecting flights. Let’s compare the travel costs that must be incurred for the trip to Agats if the promo the same amount is equivalent to the price of a return ticket Jakarta – Dubai or Jakarta – Tokyo. Not a number that can be said to be small.

hipwee-www.panoramio.com_-750x422On arrival at Agats, we will see how the differences in nature, facilities, social and cultural environment are very different from what we commonly encounter in big cities in Indonesia. Quiet, quiet, limited facilities as if taking us to a dream. It’s just that this is a reality on Indonesian soil.

There is a unique feature of Agats. The condition of muddy soil and swamp makes this city must stand with road facilities in the form of boards, at a glance this road resembles a pier. The streets in Agats city resemble bridges made of ironwood. As time and technology develop, the upgraded version of these bridges took shape in stronger concrete. Until now, the development of Agats was carried out on this unique street. All buildings adjust to the form of the stage houses. The primary means of transportation in this swamp town are motorbikes, especially electric motorcycles.

This limited condition makes local governments and residents adapt to these conditions. The wooden bridge road that extends across Agats is not able to withstand heavy motorbike loads, let alone cars. Now, in addition to electric motors, Agats residents who are mostly migrants from outside Asmat rely on sea transportation in the form of motorboats or just walking if they are still inside the central residential area. Another limitation is the lack of clean water supply. The Agats have survived with rainwater collected in water storage. Swampland conditions make this land challenging to provide clean water.

937091369The next story about Agats will continue in later editions.


Agats adalah ibukota Kabupaten Asmat di Papua, rumah dari masyarakat suku Asmat yang terkenal dengan hasil seni patung tribal yang unik. Terletak di sisi selatan Pulau yang berbentuk burung cendrawasih ini dengan wilayah hampir seluas 30 ribu km2, namun dengan populasi sebesar 106.569 jiwa, dan dengan kepadatan penduduk yang hanya berjumlah 3,59 jiwa/km2. Sebuah angka yang amat kontras jika dibandingkan dengan Ibukota negara Jakarta yang seluas 661,52 km2 dengan kepadatan penduduk 15.663 jiwa/km2.

suku-asmat_20180209_135930Perjalanan menuju Agats ini tidak mudah, memakan waktu dan biaya yang tidak sedikit. Perjalanan dari Jakarta saja setidaknya memakan waktu lebih dari 12 jam dengan beberapa kali transit dan penggantian pesawat. Tepatnya kita berangkat dengan penerbangan tengah malam (pukul 01.20) dan baru akan tiba di Timika (dengan rute transit di Makassar) pada pukul 09.30. Di Timika ini tidak ada penerbangan langsung yang bisa menerbangkan kita di hari yang sama, sehingga kita harus bermalam di Timika, untuk melanjutkan penerbangan dengan pesawat perintis entah dengan maskapai Aviastar entah Trigana yang umumnya menggunakan pesawat tipe baling-baling dengan kapasitas maksimal 18 penumpang keesokan harinya.

Biaya perjalanan pun sebagaimana telah disinggung sebelumnya tidak sedikit. Setidaknya luangkan dana Rp4 juta untuk sekali perjalanan dari Jakarta ke Agats. Bila pulang pergi, maka biaya perjalanan yang harus dikeluarkan sudah mencapai Rp8 juta. Jangan lupa angka itu belum termasuk biaya wajib transit di Timika dikarenakan tidak adanya connecting flight. Coba kita bandingkan biaya perjalanan yang harus dikeluarkan untuk perjalanan menuju Agats, dalam kondisi promo jumlah yang sama setara dengan ongkos tiket pulang pergi Jakarta – Dubai atau Jakarta – Tokyo. Sungguh bukan satu angka yang bisa dikatakan kecil.

21Setibanya di Agats, kita akan menyaksikan bagaimana perbedaan alam, fasilitas, lingkungan sosial dan budaya yang amat berbeda dengan apa yang biasa kita temui di kota-kota besar Indonesia. Sepi, sunyi, fasilitas yang terbatas seolah membawa kita berada pada ruang mimpi. Hanya saja ini adalah kenyataan di bumi Indonesia.

Terdapat keunikan tersendiri yang dimiliki oleh Agats. Kondisi tanah berlumpur dan rawa membuat kota ini harus berdiri dengan sarana jalan yang berupa papan, sekilas jalan ini menyerupai dermaga. Jalan-jalan di kota Agats menyerupai jembatan yang dibuat dari kayu besi. Seiring perkembangan jaman dan teknologi, jembatan-jembatan ini mulai diupgrade dalam beton yang lebih kuat. Hingga kini, pengembangan Agats dilakukan di atas jalanan yang unik ini. Semua bangunan menyesuaikan dengan bentuk rumah-rumah panggung. Bahkan, alat transportasi utama di dalam kota rawa-rawa ini adalah motor, khususnya motor yang menggunakan tenaga listrik.

Kondisi yang serba terbatas ini membuat pemerintah daerah dan penduduk menyesuaikan dengan kondisi tersebut. Jalan jembatan kayu yang terbentang luas di seluruh Agats tidak mampu menahan beban motor mesin yang cukup berat, apalagi mobil. Kini, selain motor listrik, para penduduk Agats yang sebagian besar merupakan pendatang dari wilayah luar Asmat ini mengandalkan transportasi laut berupa perahu motor atau sekedar berjalan kaki bila masih berada di dalam wilayah pusat pemukiman. Keterbatasan lain adalah kurangnya pasokan air bersih. Masyarakat Agats hingga kini bertahan dengan air hujan yang ditampung di tabung-tabung air. Kondisi tanah rawa membuat tanah ini sulit menyediakan air bersih.

6.4 magnitude of Earthquake (Gempa) in Situbondo, East Java – Indonesia

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I just felt the earthquake recently, even though the epicenter is considerably far from where I live (+/- 200 km away). The chandelier in the living room wobbly, and I felt nausea up until now. It turns out that the magnitude is 6.4 Richter Scale, that’s the reason why I perceived the shaking quite strong.

I hope that everybody who lives nearby the epicenter is safe and no damage or whatsoever happened to you and your family.

May peace be with you.