The most important things in life

Life is brief, and the most precious things can quickly become lost.
Sometimes, outside circumstances cause that loss. Occasionally, we induce ourselves to lose the things that mean the most to us.

Whether a life-changing circumstance happens or you momentarily do something out of nature that leads to irretrievable damage, you often only realize what you had once it’s gone.

That’s why you need to guard some fundamental aspects of your life with an emotion that can’t be tamed.

Our lives and priorities are all complexes. However, there are precious things in life that are pretty much common.

I would say that the most essential thing in your life is you. A healthy, loved, happy, spiritually rich, fearless, determined you. Have that version of yourself as your life’s vision, and never stop chasing it.

Family
Our relationships are the most essential things in the world. They’re the most crucial factor for happiness and, in combination with your calling, tend to be our reasons to live. For most, the family is at the top of the list in terms of values and priorities.

Sometimes, it’s easy to disregard just how much family signifies to us. They’re the people we typically live with, and it’s hard to live with another person – no matter how much we like them. Love gives way to frustration and sometimes…we feel like we hate the other person.

However, your family is irreplaceable and precious, so you have to devote your time and energy to nurture those valuable relationships, not just for the sake of your relatives, but also for your own.

Friends
Good friends are hard to come by, so when you find one, you need to do everything you can to nurture that relationship.

A great friend can become like family. You forge an inseparable bond with someone whom you know, you can always count on — no matter how dark things get. A good friend is a confidant, a shoulder to lean on, and sometimes the voice of reason for us.

Always remember how lucky you are to have found someone you can genuinely call a good friend.

Love
Love includes friends and family, your calling, and intimate relationships. But it also provides everything else you love and all your encounters with others. It consists of those things you enjoy doing, the stories you grew up with, and the kind interactions with strangers that remind you of the love that exists in the world.

These can seem like separate, unrelated things, but they are opportunities to experience love in its varying forms. Experiencing love can give our life a sense of meaning and purpose, like something else…

Your sense of meaning
It’s your passion, your muse. Your calling gives your life purpose and furnishes you with a feeling of vitality that makes everything more relaxed and more enjoyable. This is also how you make a difference.

Your calling is your life’s work. It’s your legacy. To find what you have a passion for, and to pursue that passion, is to find the vehicle you’ll use to contribute your greatness to the world.

Health
This is one of those “you don’t know how much it means until it’s gone” type things. Many people will skip over this point, not giving it a second thought.

However, once you have even a single small health complication, you’ll know precisely just how important this is. At the first sign of difficulties, you realize that everything is jeopardized by bad health.

With good health, you can spend more time with friends and family, enjoy the love in your life, and follow your passion to your heart’s content. With bad health…you eventually, lose it all. So, take care of your health, so you have more time to enjoy the other most important things in your life.

In theory, that’s the most essential things in our lives. However, the problem will become more complicated when there is a conflict between one crucial thing and another. How about when a person in our family has a problem with our friends in another place. Or what if when nurturing family, we actually lose love, or ourselves?

Here is why life is so exciting. Because many exciting things in life actually are things that we have not known before. Because it is the mystery in life that actually becomes an “effectual recipe” for an extraordinary experience.

Selamat ulang tahun mama

Tepat 65 tahun silam, tanggal 21 Juni 1954 ibuku dilahirkan di dunia ini. Seorang perempuan yang kemudian tumbuh dan besar menjadi seorang wanita multi talenta yang melahirkan dan membesarkanku serta memberikan makna cinta untuk pertama kalinya padaku.

Tidak pernah sedetikpun aku meragukan ketulusan cinta darinya untukku. Tidak kala ku masih dalam timangan, tidak pula saat ini. Saat dimana aku hanya terbujur di tempat tidur rumah sakit yang keras ini dengan selang-selang yang menempel pada tubuhku.

Dari dia lah aku mengenal tentang kepribadian seorang wanita. Tangguh, mandiri, bertanggung jawab, supportive. Yang mana ternyata merupakan hal yang langka ditemukan pada wanita-wanita jaman now. Atau mungkin saja karena aku yang ditakdirkan untuk bertemu dengan wanita-wanita yang berbeda karakter dengan ibuku.

Yang pasti, di hari ulang tahunnya ini tidak ada tiupan lilin, tidak pula ada pemotongan kue, selametan potong tumpeng, pengajian dan kemudian membagi nasi berkat, dan lain sebagainya. Hanya ada aku dan dia, berdua menghabiskan waktu bersama. Aku di ranjang pasien, dan dia meringkuk di lantai beralaskan selimut tipis dengan niatan menemani anak lelaki satu-satunya yang divonis wajib rawat inap untuk kedua kalinya dalam bulan Juni ini saja.

Ya, total ini sudah malam ke 12 kuhabiskan bermalam di rumah sakit. Lebih banyak waktu kuhabiskan tidur di rumah sakit ketimbang di rumah untuk bulan ini.

Tidak banyak yang bisa ku ucapkan untuk mu mama, selain aku benar-benar mencintaimu, dan bersyukur kepada Allah ditakdirkan menjadi anakmu yang mengalami semua proses kehidupan ini dari awal hingga saat ini bersamamu. Semoga Allah memberimu surga-Nya untuk keluasan hatimu yang seluas samudera. Untuk kesabaranmu yang tak bertepi.

Mungkin Nanti

Musik tidak pernah lepas dari keseharianku.

No, aku bukan penyanyi. Mungkin jika menyanyi di depan layar laptop, atau di ruang karaoke, atau di kamar mandi dikategorikan sebagai seorang penyanyi, maka mau tidak mau aku pun ikhlas disebut seorang penyanyi.

Bagi aku dalam sebuah lagu terdiri dalam dua komponen inti yaitu melodi dan lirik. Aku tipe manusia yang condong pada pendengar melodi ketimbang mengagumi lirik. Aku menikmati vokal yang dialunkan sang vokalis, ketukan perkusi yang ada di latar belakang, bagaimana bunyi gitar yang dipetik, dan semua instrumen yang dimainkan aku perhatikan satu persatu, sambil mengagumi bagaimana beragam perbedaan itu bisa menjadi sebuah harmoni yang nikmat di telinga (jika lagu itu enak – tentu saja).

Eniwei, aku sudah satu bulan ini teramat sering mendengarkan satu lagu karya Ariel Noah. Ya, artis papan atas Indonesia yang itu, bukan yang lain.

Ini lagu lama yang dibuatkan lirik baru dalam versi Jepangnya dan diarrange ulang dengan manis, ringan dan nyaman di telinga dalam versi akustik, hingga hasil akhirnya bisa membuat rasa gelitikan kecil di hati.

Ini liriknya.

Moshimo mata itsuka

Hanashite okitainda
Kitto kore ga saigo sa
Subete tebanashite shimaou
Sore ga ima dato omounda

Kimi wa kawatte shimattandarou
Ai wa kiete shimattandarou

Moshimo mata itsuka bokura ga deau nara
Onegai dakara mou nanimo kikanai de
Kinou made koko ni atta kimi e no ai wa
Okizari ni shite kita kara

Kokoro ga shizunde
Kimi ga yume kara sametara
Omoidashite hoshiinda
Kimi to boku monogatari wo

Kimi wa kawatte shimattandarou
Ai wa kiete shimattandarou

Moshimo mata itsuka bokura ga deau nara
Onegai dakara mou nanimo kikanai de
Kinou made koko ni atta kimi e no ai wa
Okizari ni shite kita kara

Moshimo mata itsuka bokura ga deau nara
Onegai dakara mou nani mo kikanai de
Kinou made koko ni atta kimi e no ai wa
Okizari ni shite kita kara

Mou nani mo kikanaide
Mune ni shimaikonde
Subete no koukai to
Kimi ga kureta kono ai wo

Moshimo mata itsuka

Kalo lirik versi awalnya (Indo) sih begini:

Mungkin Nanti

Saatnya ku berkata mungkin yang terakhir kalinya
Sudahlah lepaskan semua kuyakin inilah waktunya
Mungkin saja kau bukan yang dulu lagi
Mungkin saja rasa itu telah pergi

Dan mungkin bila nanti kita kan bertemu lagi
Satu pintaku jangan kau coba tanyakan kembali
Rasa yang kutinggal mati
Seperti hari kemarin saat semua disini

Dan bila hatimu termenung bangun dari mimpi-mimpimu
Membuka hatimu yang dulu cerita saat bersamaku
Mungkin saja kau bukan yang dulu lagi
Mungkin saja rasa itu telah pergi

Tak usah kau tanyakan lagi
Simpan untukmu sendiri
Semua sesal yang kau cari
Semua rasa yang kau beri

Mungkin Nanti

Jujur aku sih lebih suka sama versi Jepangnya, terasa lebih matang dan mature.

Nah, setelah membaca liriknya aku baru ngeh kalo ini lagu tentang cinta (patah hati) ya? 😂😂😂

Pernyataan Cinta – Kidung Cinta Jalaluddin Rumi

Bila tak kunyatakan keindahan-Mu dalam kata
Kusimpan kasih-Mu dalam dada
Bila kucium harum mawar tanpa cinta-Mu
Segera saja bagai duri bakarlah aku

Meskipun aku diam tenang bagai ikan
Tapi aku gelisah pula bagai ombak dalam lautan
Kau yang telah menutup rapat bibirku
Tariklah misaiku ke dekat-Mu

Apakah maksud-Mu?
Mana kutahu?
Aku hanya tahu bahwa aku siap dalam iringan ini selalu
Kukunyah lagi mamahan kepedihan mengenangmu

Bagai unta memahah biak makanannya
Dan bagai unta yang geram mulutku berbusa
Meskipun aku tinggal tersembunyi dan tidak bicara
Di hadirat Kasih aku jelas dan nyata

Aku bagai benih di bawah tanah
Aku menanti tanda musim semi
Hingga tanpa nafasku sendiri aku dapat bernafas wangi
Dan tanpa kepalaku sendiri aku dapat membelai kepala lagi…

The Power of Why by Simon Sinek

Why some organizations and some leaders are able to inspire where others aren’t.
Every single person, every single organization on the planet knows what they do, 100 percent. Some know how they do it, whether you call it your differentiated value proposition or your proprietary process or your USP.

But very few people or organizations know why they do what they do. And by “why” I don’t mean “to make a profit.” That’s a result. It’s always a result.
By “why,” I mean: What’s your purpose?
What’s your cause? What’s your belief?
Why does your organization exist?

Why do you get out of bed in the morning? And why should anyone care?
As a result, the way we think, we act, the way we communicate is from the outside in, it’s obvious. We go from the clearest thing to the fuzziest thing.

But the inspired leaders and the inspired organizations – regardless of their size, regardless of their industry – all think, act and communicate from the inside out.

People don’t buy what you do; they buy why you do it.

The goal is not to do business with everybody who needs what you have. The goal is to do business with people who believe what you believe.

Here’s the best part: It’s all grounded in the tenets of biology. Not psychology, biology.

If you look at a cross-section of the human brain, from the top down, the human brain is actually broken into three major components that correlate perfectly with the golden circle.

Our newest brain, our Homo sapien brain, our neocortex, corresponds with the “what” level. The neocortex is responsible for all of our rational and analytical thought and language.

The middle two sections make up our limbic brains, and our limbic brains are responsible for all of our feelings, like trust and loyalty. It’s also responsible for all human behavior, all decision-making, and it has no capacity for language.

In other words, when we communicate from the outside in, yes, people can understand vast amounts of complicated information like features and benefits and facts and figures. It just doesn’t drive behavior.

When we can communicate from the inside out, we’re talking directly to the part of the brain that controls behavior, and then we allow people to rationalize it with the tangible things we say and do. This is where gut decisions come from.

Sometimes you can give somebody all the facts and figures, and they say, “I know what all the facts and details say, but it just doesn’t feel right.”
Why would we use that verb, it doesn’t “feel” right?
Because the part of the brain that controls decision-making doesn’t control language.

The best we can muster up is, “I don’t know. It just doesn’t feel right.”
Or sometimes you say you’re leading with your heart or soul.

Those aren’t other body parts controlling your behavior. It’s all happening here in your limbic brain, the part of the brain that controls decision-making and not language.

But if you don’t know why you do what you do, and people respond to why you do what you do, then how will you ever get people to vote for you, or buy something from you, or, more importantly, be loyal and want to be a part of what it is that you do.

The goal is not just to sell to people who need what you have; the goal is to sell to people who believe what you believe. The goal is not just to hire people who need a job; it’s to hire people who believe what you believe.

If you hire people just because they can do a job, they’ll work for your money, but if they believe what you believe, they’ll work for you with blood and sweat and tears.

People don’t buy what you do; they buy why you do it.

If you talk about what you believe, you will attract those who believe what you believe. But why is it important to attract those who believe what you believe?

Something called the law of diffusion of innovation, if you don’t know the law, you know the terminology.

The first 2.5% of our population are our innovators. The next 13.5% of our population are our early adopters. The next 34% are your early majority, your late majority and your laggards. The only reason these people buy touch-tone phones is because you can’t buy rotary phones anymore.

We all sit at various places at various times on this scale, but what the law of diffusion of innovation tells us is that if you want mass-market success or mass-market acceptance of an idea, you cannot have it until you achieve this tipping point between 15 and 18 percent market penetration, and then the system tips.

I love asking businesses, “What’s your conversion on new business?”
They love to tell you, “It’s about 10 percent,” proudly. Well, you can trip over 10% of the customers.

We all have about 10% who just “get it.” That’s how we describe them, right?
That’s like that gut feeling, “Oh, they just get it.”

The problem is: How do you find the ones that get it before doing business versus the ones who don’t get it?

So it’s this here, this little gap that you have to close, as Jeffrey Moore calls it, “Crossing the Chasm” – because, you see, the early majority will not try something until someone else has tried it first.

And these guys, the innovators and the early adopters, they’re comfortable making those gut decisions. They’re more comfortable making those intuitive decisions that are driven by what they believe about the world and not just what product is available.

These are the people who stood in line for six hours to buy an iPhone when they first came out, when you could have bought one off the shelf the next week.

These are the people who spent 40,000 dollars on flat-screen TVs when they first came out, even though the technology was substandard. And they didn’t do it because the technology was so great; they did it for themselves.

It’s because they wanted to be first. People don’t buy what you do; they buy why you do it and what you do simply proves what you believe. In fact, people will do the things that prove what they believe.

The reason that person bought the iPhone in the first six hours, stood in line for six hours, was because of what they believed about the world, and how they wanted everybody to see them: they were first.

People don’t buy what you do; they buy why you do it, and what you do simply serves as the proof of what you believe.

Now let me give you a successful example of the law of diffusion of innovation.
In the summer of 1963, 250,000 people showed up on the mall in Washington to hear Dr. King speak. They sent out no invitations, and there was no website to check the date. How do you do that? Well, Dr. King wasn’t the only man in America who was a great orator. He wasn’t the only man in America who suffered in a pre-civil rights America. In fact, some of his ideas were bad. But he had a gift. He didn’t go around telling people what needed to change in America.

He went around and told people what he believed. “I believe, I believe, I believe,” he told people. And people who believed what he believed took his cause, and they made it their own, and they told people. And some of those people created structures to get the word out to even more people.

And lo and behold, 250,000 people showed up on the right day at the right time to hear him speak. How many of them showed up for him? Zero.
They showed up for themselves. It’s what they believed about America that got them to travel in a bus for eight hours to stand in the sun in Washington in the middle of August.

It’s what they believed, and it wasn’t about black versus white: 25% of the audience was white. Dr. King believed that there are two types of laws in this world: those that are made by a higher authority and those that are made by men. And not until all the laws that are made by men are consistent with the laws made by the higher authority will we live in a just world.

It just so happened that the Civil Rights Movement was the perfect thing to help him bring his cause to life. We followed, not for him, but for ourselves. By the way, he gave the “I have a dream” speech, not the “I have a plan” speech.

Listen to politicians now, with their comprehensive 12-point plans. They’re not inspiring anybody. Because there are leaders and there are those who lead.

Leaders hold a position of power or authority, but those who lead inspire us. Whether they’re individuals or organizations, we follow those who lead, not because we have to, but because we want to.

We follow those who lead, not for them, but for ourselves. And it’s those who start with “why” that have the ability to inspire those around them or find others who inspire them.